I’m not good with the relationship side of things but I know when it comes to mental illnesses you have to be honest with how you’re feeling. You also have to understand that he may never be 100% on the same page as you regarding social anxiety, people who don’t suffer from these sort of illnesses find it hard to relate and understand with someone who is dealing with it. Maybe start off with sitting down and going through what social anxiety is and how it effects people even if he’s heard it all before. Back it up with some facts and information:
Also it wouldn’t hurt to talk to a professional but if for whatever reason you can not do that then there’s plenty of website and information out there. Message me if you ever need anything :)
You could test the water and bring up anxiety in a conversation, see how they react to the subject. You could tell them one at a time, start off with the people you’re closest to at your youth group or maybe you’d prefer to just come out and say it to everyone. Do whatever you’re most comfortable with, anxiety is just something you have and you shouldn’t be ashamed of it. You will come across people who can be judgmental but you’ll also find people who have experienced similar things to what you’re going through now, anxiety isn’t uncommon. You can do this, don’t over-think it because it’ll only stress you out. I’m here if you need to talk more xx
mr-leach: Some things I’ve learned in the CBT clinics I’ve been going to regarding anxiety that I thought might be helpful to some.
We need to start spreading empirically-based advice. This isn’t really it. I guess basic psychoeducation would be good.