Too close to the edge...

Anonymous asked: "I'm constantly torn between seeing the counsellor about my social anxiety. I find it hard to talk to new people and I never speak up in class. I used to be sort of confident I think, but now I only have two friends I hang out with and while I love them, I feel alone. I feel like a loser and like everyone knows I'm one too. I'm worried that I'm just being dramatic and that it really isn't that bad and I'm once again blowing things out of proportion. I am ALWAYS doubting myself. I'm so confused."

If you have the option of seeing a counsellor then it might be worth atleast going an introductory consultation. If you feel like this method could work for you you can start to talk through some of your problems. Discuss what you want out of the sessions and explain the things you struggle with daily, if you decide to go ahead with it. If you don’t feel like it worked for you afterwards you haven’t gained or lost anything from it, it just means it’s time to look for a plan B. If your anxiety is effecting you daily then it won’t hurt to get an outsider perspective on it. Your anxiety could become progressively worse if you leave it and you have to decide if that’s a chance you’re willing to take. On the flip side if you don’t feel like speaking to a counsellor is for you then maybe take a different approach to your social anxiety by joining a club. It could be anything, swimming, dancing or going the gym, whatever you enjoy doing. Being surrounded by different groups of people outside school is always a pleasant change and it’s a great confidence builder too. Try and stick with whatever you decide to do, no halfhearted attempts. If you want to get better then this is the way forward. I have faith in you! Sorry for the lateness of this reply, message me anytime xx 

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Anonymous asked: "(I am getting professional help) I think my anxiety is controlling me day by day more. I tried to suice twice and in all the two of them I was so scared but like all of my negative toughts were controlling me and teling me to kill myself. I didn't want this but this anxiety started to control me so much. I remember fighting myself like" no you are not going to kill yourself" and I was like "yes I am. Beacuse you are doing nothing" it was so scary. I think I am crazy. Am I right?"

You are not crazy.

People who do “go crazy” in your words, don’t know they are, they think they’re perfectly normal. Telling me you’re paranoid about going crazy is a good indicator that you’re not. You’re sick. You have an illness just think any other, mental illness can be extremely harmful if the person going through it doesn’t get help so I’m glad you are. You need to control your thoughts, it’s not your rational mind that’s talking to you and making you think these things, it’s your illness and you need to treat it as such. You need to tell whomever you’re getting help from about your suicide attempts because I don’t want you hurting yourself and neither will your loved ones. This is treatable, like any illness it can be beaten. Try mediation to clear your mind.

Maybe try this: [x]

Tell someone please, if not for yourself then for your family. I am always here for you and sorry it took so long to reply. Message me anytime xx

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When things get too much; Sit down, close your eyes and try this:

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Anonymous asked: "I feel like I have social anxiety. I display so many of the emotional, behavioural and physical symptoms. But I love acting. Does that mean I don't have it?"

People with social anxiety can feel comfortable on stage. It’s rehearsed, you’re playing a character, it’s not you. Some well known actors have come out and said that they struggled with social anxiety when they were younger, most notably Jennifer Lawrence. If you do have social anxiety acting might be the very thing that’ll help you overcome your fears, it’s a great way to build your confidence when speaking publicly. Also it can help with stuttering or muddling up a conversation; like when you recover from messing up your lines. Do talk to someone about your fears though don’t keep it to yourself, obviously I can’t diagnose you but a professional will be able to. To answer your question yes, people with social anxiety can enjoy acting, it’s a very controlled environment, you know what to expect. I do think you should throw yourself into your acting though, it’s a great confidence builder and it will help you mix with other people. I’ve found in my experience that a lot of quieter or shier people have joined acting classes and/or studied it; it tends to bring them out of their shell. I hope this helps, sorry I didn’t reply straight away it got lost ask box! Message me anytime :) 

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Anonymous asked: "I ve never been in a relationship and no boy had ever liked me (as far as i know) but i am terrified with the idea of getting into a relationship. And now when i get the feeling that a boy may like me i get really anxious and i think that i can never be in a relationship??"

I’m really not the best person to be giving advice on relationships but I’ll give it my best try!
You will be in a relationship, you may feel like you’re behind your friends but everyone develops in their own time and you’ll get there eventually. Whether you’re 13 or 30 it doesn’t matter. Just be yourself, form friendships with guys. It’s when you stop waiting in anticipation for something to happen that it usually comes. When it happens it’ll happen and when a boy does like you take it in stride! If it leads to something more then fantastic and if it fades out that’s ok too, it just means he wasn’t the right one. Don’t let anxiety stop your personality from shinning through!  Don’t over think this, it will happen, don’t rush into it if you’re not ready. I hope this helps, message me anytime xx  

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Anonymous asked: "Even though it's undiagnosed, I'm pretty sure I have social anxiety to some extent and when it comes to my relationship with my boyfriend he can be kind of insensitive to some of the problems I have (like constantly being terrified to interact with his friends out of fear of them hating me as well as other problems like being emotionally needy). Is there any way I can kind of help him understand where I'm coming from/things I can teach him about helping a significant other that has this problem?"

I’m not good with the relationship side of things but I know when it comes to mental illnesses you have to be honest with how you’re feeling. You also have to understand that he may never be 100% on the same page as you regarding social anxiety, people who don’t suffer from these sort of illnesses find it hard to relate and understand with someone who is dealing with it. Maybe start off with sitting down and going through what social anxiety is and how it effects people even if he’s heard it all before. Back it up with some facts and information:

NHS social anxiety


Help Guide 

Mood Juice

Also it wouldn’t hurt to talk to a professional but if for whatever reason you can not do that then there’s plenty of website and information out there. Message me if you ever need anything :) 

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