I have an anxiety disorder, it used to be severe. In the last year I've gotten a lot better and have been quite okay with a job (I have 2 but in 1 job I struggle with anxiety) I found out that my boss told one coworker that I am scared of her (it's not true). That coworker then went on to tell me she once worked in mental health, that I should be able to work in spite of my anxiety and I have a bad work ethic. Is she right? I feel like my progress has been for nothing, if I shouldn't be working.
Sorry for the lateness of this reply. I didn’t really understand the message, is this person saying that your anxiety shouldn’t stop you working? Because that’s wrong, sometimes when a persons anxiety is really bad it can disrupt their work. You have an illness, an actual medical condition, anxiety is not a bad work ethic. Obviously this coworker of yours left her job because of her complete ignorance towards mental illness. Sadly, some people will think these things, they’ll think you’re lazy or are just faking it. Don’t give these people your time of day, there’s no point in worrying about them. Sadly most of them are so narrow minded that it doesn’t matter how well you explain whats going on inside your body they still won’t believe you. Your progress is something, don’t let these people get you don’t, don’t let them take away your achievements. Little achievements to them may be major achievements to you but that doesn’t take away their significance. Keep going with your job, things should get easier, I have faith in you! I hope this helps, message me anytime :)
I was wondering if you have any advice for me. Basically, my anxiety has hit an all time high. I'm not diagnosed with an anxiety disorder but I'm absolutely certain I'm suffering from one. And I can not leave the house without another person or with my phone in my hand. I can't stare at where I'm walking because I'll notice other humans walking or driving past and it terrifies me. I am frightened of just being in the world I live in. (Continued)
Apologies for the lateness of this reply. It does sound like this is becoming a pretty big problem in your life. My advice is get yourself to a doctor and get properly diagnosed. If you want to fix this, this is the first step. Tell your parents, though I’m sure they’re aware something is wrong if it’s disrupting your life this much, and get yourself checked by your doctor. I hope the doctors goes alright, and remember you’re not alone, you will get through this! Message me anytime :)
I am a bit terrified by cinemas ... I think because my first panick attack happened in a cinema. So my friends are planning to go and i want to go as well but i hesitate a bit and i think that if i go something is going to happen.
Firstly sorry for the lateness of this reply I’ve been extremely busy and I’ve also been getting a lot of questions, not just from this blog. Avoiding a place that triggers anxiety is not beneficial for you in the long run. The more you avoid it the harder it will be to go back there, it could get to a point were you can’t go there at all. When anxiety starts to limit the places you can go it can cause you to become anxious in places you never were before. Not to say that will happen to you, but it can happen. Take the bull by the horns as they say and go to the cinema, try and enjoy yourself! You’ll feel better once you have done it and it should ease your anxiety the next time you go. I have faith in you! Message me how it goes :)
Hi guys, just a quick heads up that I’ll be taking a short hiatus. I’m extremely busy at the moment and can’t answer your questions as quickly as I’d like to. I’ll answer all the questions already in my ask box at the moment, and you can still message me but your questions will take longer to get to. I’m setting up a que as well so it’ll be like I was never gone and I’ll be in and out of Tumblr so if you desperately need my help we can chat. Hope you’re all having a lovely summer, feel free to message me if you have questions regarding this matter! :)
I'm extremely suicidal. I've been in a mental hospital twice for manic depression. Everyone at school looks at me like I'm a freak. Like I'll put a gun in my mouth in the middle of class or I'll start slashing my wrists in the lunch room. I really don't know what to do anymore. Please help me. Please.
Suicide is not the answer, you need professional help. You can get through this, you can get better and you will get better. Like any other illness you need help from the people who know how to make you better. Please, talk to your family and go to see your doctor immediately. Any advice that I’d give to you wouldn’t be enough. I’m sorry I can’t be of more help, it’s just not in my capability.
I get panic attacks quite often when I'm doing things I enjoy and I am going to warped tour on Friday so I'm terrified I'm going to have one while I'm there and I'll be alone apart from 2 or 3 friends but I am so embarrassed when I get them and I don't want to ruin their day and idk I just don't know what to do
Perhaps have a private word with your friends? Explain to them that you are prone to panic attacks and certain situations can trigger them. Say that you’re looking forward to Warped Tour but panic attacks are out of your control and all you want is their understanding and patience if one occurs while you’re there. Worrying about ruining their day is only going to stress you out more. Remember, you’re not a burden to your friends. Also remember that if you do have a panic attack that that’s all it is, a panic attack. Keep telling yourself that if you start to panic and concentrate on anything other than worrying. Keep your mind occupied, there should be lots of things to keep you distracted at Warped Tour! I hope the last statement isn’t too contradictory, I hope you understand my example. Lastly, remember to have fun! There’s going to be lots of stuff going on to keep you busy, it may take your mind off panicking. I hope this helps, have a great time and message me how it goes!
Im almost positive that I have anxiety and depression. Some days I just can't do anything, talk to anyone, or even get out of bed. And somedays my head won't stop being a beehive, my thoughts are always negative on these days and they just swirl round and round until I have a breakdown. How would you go about explaining this to family? They often blame my 'nothing' days to laziness and my 'everything at once' days to a bad mood. How do I tell them what I think it is? And that I need help?
Everyone has bad days, but when they become too much for you to handle you have to talk to someone about it. Just sit them down and have a serious talk, try to express how much this is troubling you. You could say while everyone can be lazy, for the main part what you’re going through isn’t and that you’re concerned about your mental health. Perhaps the family member who you get along with the most, the one who understands you the most, maybe telling them first is the best course of action. You don’t need to have a massive family intervention, just the family members who will need to know. Depending on your age you might be able to see a doctor without a family member, perhaps you can get properly diagnosed before talking to them. Remember you do need to see a doctor and telling your family is the first step. You can do this! I hope it goes OK, message me anytime :)
Hello, I'm the same anon with the doctor question. I told her I was very stressed and worried about my school work. My mom was in the room with me so I really wasn't comfortable at all. My doctor suggested dropping one of the AP classes. She said if I get stressed while studying to just stop and do something that relaxes me.(She even suggested crying to get my emotions out!) I didn't tell her about my constant worrying, though. I think the school stress is causing most of my worries.
Crying is actually a really good suggestion! Keeping everything bottled up isn’t healthy at all, having a good cry once and awhile is normal. Minimizing school stress may be the best plan of action. Once you downsize on your workload things might get better, but if they don’t and you keep worrying I suggest telling someone about it, that’s what family is for! I hope you can start to feel more relaxed, message me anytime :)
I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow. How should I tell her I think I might have anxiety? I've had a panic attack last year and I'm always worry about every little thing. I'm taking 3 AP classes next year and I swear the stress might end up killing me. I'm scared to tell my parents because I don't know how they'll react and I don't want them to think it's their fault.
Be honest with her, tell her exactly what you’ve just told me. Your doctor is there to help you but how can she if you don’t paint the whole picture for her? It’s important to get across how bad you’re feeling so the doctor can work with you to get you better. Just talk to your parents, explain the stress you’re under with your education, make sure they understand it has nothing to do with them. You need people to support you and who better than your Mum and Dad? I hope this helps, message me how your doctors consultation goes!
“Today I had the chance to help a girl who has just discovered she have panic disorder. I felt myself going back in time and telling the old me, a year ago, when it all began: “It will be alright. You’re not crazy. I know sometimes it seems that will never stop, but i promise it will.” I feel free. I feel that all I’ve been thru was not in vain, at least one person will not have to face this monster feeling alone.”—(via in-a-landslide)
I think my depersonilization is getting worst ( i am very busy with exams and i berly find time to relax) is there any advice you can give me? Is there anything i can do to make me feel more calm? Btw you have a very amazing blog good job!xxx
First of all, thank you!
Something very important I learnt while taking my exams was that they can be retaken. Silly right? A lot of people, me included, get into the mindset that you only have one chance and if you fail you’ll be a failure for life. Your mental health and stability is more important than exams. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give them your all, and it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t revise but you should always set time aside for yourself. Whether it means that you spend an extra ten minutes relaxing in the bath or you read a book for half an hour before bed, it doesn’t matter so long as you give yourself some down time. Also if you really feel like your depersonalization is getting worse you should go to a doctor. I hope this helps, good luck with your exams!
“Why allow all the old memories to have supremacy? Make new ones, memories of such luster and beauty that, should the old ones come back, they would be pallid and impotent in comparison.”—Sherry Thomas
Mental illnesses aren’t clear cut. Symptoms over lap. Symptoms contradict. Some days are better than others. Some days are worse than others. It can get messy. No matter where you are on the spectrum- your thoughts & feelings are valid. You are precious. You deserve to be listened to. You deserve compassion. Just because X over there is struggling a bit more than you today, it doesn’t make you any less worthy of support.
How do I make, well, different friends. My friends now are great but I often find myself alone with no one around to talk to when I need it most. I try to meet new people but I find myself too anxious to meet other people and going to a small school doesn't help that. So please help give me ideas
Perhaps joining an extracurricular group outside of school? You say you’re nervous around new people so why don’t you take a friend with you? It’s easier to strike up a conversation when there’s two of you. I’m sure there’s plenty of clubs you could go to outside of school, choose something that interests you. Find people with common interests, it can make it easier to form a friendships with them. Put yourself out there a bit more, when your friends mix with people you don’t know try and join in, and even if you don’t speak to anyone it’s still an accomplishment, and perhaps the next time you’ll have the courage to speak up. It’s all about getting used to being in unfamiliar social situations, the more you participate the easier it will get. Let your personality shine through, I have faith in you! I hope this helps, message me anytime :)
“inhale through your nose
and exhale slowly through puckered lips
you are in control
there is nothing wrong with you
you are fine
you wont freak out
you wont cause a scene
you are in control
you will be okay”—how to calm down from a panic attack (via blackfemalepresident)
I don’t talk about my illness so that you will feel sorry for me. I talk about it so you will know what I’m going through, why I am the way I am. I don’t want your pity. I want your understanding.
And sometimes, I talk about it because I had a bad day and just like you, talking about the bad thing makes me feel better. It just so happens I have a lot of bad days and my illness is usually at the core of it.
Do you remember how empty you felt the day someone you loved left? Doesn’t matter who it was, doesn’t matter how they left. Just feel that feeling inside your chest, the emptiness, the aching, the numbness, the sad, the cold. It feels so empty that you can physically feel it, right? You don’t want to get out of bed because there’s nothing worth waking up for. You consider suicide. Now imagine being that way since you were little. Imagine that depression is decades long of the same heartbreak. Imagine that you feel this way when you wake up, sometimes for no reason at all.
Do you remember the last time you faced one of your fears? Doesn’t matter what fear. One that most people can relate to is public speaking. Do you remember how scared you were? Do you remember feeling everybody’s eyes on you? Do you remember shaking? Imagine feeling that all the time. Imagine that every second of your life is a presentation and the whole world is an audience.
Do you understand it now?
”—2:46 p.m. (Maybe if I explain it this way, more people will understand)
“If you’re struggling, you deserve to make self-care a priority. Whether that means lying in bed all day, eating comfort food, putting off homework, crying, sleeping, rescheduling plans, finding an escape through a good book, watching your favorite TV show, or doing nothing at all — give yourself permission to put your healing first. Quiet the voice telling you to do more and be more, and today, whatever you do, let it be enough. Feel your feelings, breathe, and be gentle with yourself. Acknowledge that you’re doing the best you can to cope and survive. And trust that during this time of struggle, it’s enough.”—Daniell Koepke (via ieatstarrs)
“Look for small victories and build on that. Each small victory, even if it is just getting up 5 minutes earlier, gives you confidence. You realize that these little victories make you feel great, and you keep going. You realize that being paralyzed by fear of failure is worse than failure.”—(via stunningpicture)