“One day, you’ll feel empty while pursuing your goals or your dreams. On those days, just remember the warmth of the people who encouraged you and believed in you. Surely, you’ll be able to keep pushing forward no matter what.”—(via psych-facts)
How do I tell a skeptical parent that I have anxiety and I'm really struggling. I really want to seek some treatment. This year after Christmas there will be a required class at my school and I really don't think I can do it. I have talked to both my parents about it and they don't think it's a big deal. Any tips?
To bring a parent round I find the best way to get through to them is to be honest with them. Don’t sugar coat how you’re feeling, explain to them how your anxiety manifests itself and how it is effecting you, physically, emotionally and of course, mentally. Maybe even tell them you wrote to an anxiety advice page? Explain that you are really struggling and this isn’t something that’s just come on you overnight, you’ve had a lot of time to think about what may be the root of your problems. Remember, you can do anything. You are so much stronger than anything your anxiety can throw at you. Anxiety has a funny little way of pulling the ground from under you, you can feel shaken and weak. Find your limits with anxiety. However, don’t just stay in your comfort zone because the more out of your comfort zone you are, the more normal it becomes. Message me how talking to your parents goes. I hope this helps :)
I generally excuse myself to the bathroom and give myself a couple minutes alone. It's not a foolproof plan as some of my teachers don't let me leave the classroom, but it's a good place to start.
Perhaps making your teachers aware of why you’re excusing yourself? Do you have a student counselor or somebody in pastoral care you can talk to? Do your parents know about your anxiety? Maybe talk to them and see if they can say something to your teachers instead of you having to do it. You may not have to leave the class every time you start to panic and to be honest that’s definitely not the best thing to do because you need to fight these feelings and not let it result in fleeing every time. If you flee every time you start to panic it might get worse. Next time you start to panic in lesson try and sit through it. Remember, it will not hurt you. You have been in that lesson many times before and you will go there again. The panic that you will feel will only be temporary and you’ll feel so much better when though’s feelings subside. You can do it :)
I basically told my mum i have anxiety after a long time of thinking about it, and she just laughed in my face and said i haven't. I really want medication because i cant carry on school without it so i dont know what to do
No one should depend on medication, you can get through this yourself. Taking medication will only ease your symptoms it’s not going to stop them completely. You have to help yourself, if you had a broken leg the medication would be your crutch but you still have to do all the hard work yourself. There are many different routes you can take and medication is only one of them. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Hypnotherapy, Acupuncture, Meditation and an array of other things have all been know to help people with mental health problems. If you feel like medication is your only answer then you’ll need to seriously get it into your Mum’s head that there’s something wrong. You can always go to the doctor by yourself or take another family member if your Mum really won’t listen to you. Message me how talking to her goes. I hope this helps :)
You need to find a distraction method that works for you, something that will keep your mind off panicking. Perhaps focusing entirely on what your teacher is saying so you have no room to think about anything else. Maybe talking to a friend and getting to help you through it. Some people prefer not being disturbed so they can concentrate on their breathing. Maybe mentioning to your teacher that you’re struggling could help and asking if it’s possible to take a time out when you start to have a panic attack. I know the last suggestion sounds embarrassing but the teacher is there to support you. Maybe speak to your parents about it as well. Do you only get panic attacks in school? Message me off anon if you like :)
Hi, i suffer form anxiety ( like a lot of anxiety) and i ve been feeling a little lost. Like i dont know who i am or why i i do the thing i do ( but i do know who i am) its confusing... Ouff...i want this to go away but i cant see myself getting better. Is this normal when your stressed or am i crazy or something? Helpxx
Stress is extremely common and you are not crazy. You have to remember your anxiety doesn’t control you. Anxiety does a very good job of confusing you and making you feel lost but there are people who can help you. You need to tell someone how you’ve been feeling. Opening up to someone can be daunting but it’s a big step towards controlling your anxiety and reclaiming that sense-of-self you feel you’ve lost. I hope this helps :)
Hey there! I suffer from extreme anxiety and when I feel an anxiety attack coming on, I need to distract myself or I get incredibly worked up. To distract myself, I usually chew chewing gum, but that is banned at school. It also stops me from biting my lips. Any recommendations for alternatives? :) xx
If chewing gum works keep doing it outside of school! It can be difficult to find distractions inside of school because most teachers want complete silence off their students and if the lesson is particularly tedious then all your thoughts may focus on your anxiety. If you’re aloud to talk in lesson, talk to a friend and ask them how they’re doing. Sometimes shifting the conversation to someone else can help because your thoughts are on them. Most of the ways to distract yourself in lesson without drawing attention to yourself will be through your thought processes. Acknowledge that this is just anxiety, it is trying to make you feel uncomfortable but it will not hurt you. Think positively, even if you’ve only just sat down in your first lesson, the school day will end. When your anxiety is really bad look at your lessons as little challenges, “Right, I can get through this lesson without thinking about my anxiety.” think about it positively and take it one day at a time. You’ll have good days and bad days but try to start each day a fresh. Don’t let yesterday’s worries spill over to today because it’s just making it harder on yourself. I hope this helps! Message me anytime :)
Recently ive been having some panick attacks but i manage to control them.I tried to see a therapist but i didnt help me.I feel a little confused ,i dont even recognize my self anymore. And i see who everybody else ( at my age) dont have the same problems that i do - the know how to have fun and the dont worry as much as i do. My problem is that i over-analyse every single thing and thats pretty tiring. Also i am pretty stressed about school and because i havent found what i want to study yet.
Some people do know what they want to study at twenty-five, you shouldn’t fret over it, there’s no deadline to choosing your career. Whatever you choose make sure it’s something you’re passionate about, don’t let other people influence your choice and push you in a direction you don’t want to go. Meditation may help you, if your head is constantly buzzing you may just need ten or twenty minutes to yourself so you can let all those worries go. Many people your age have these problems it’s just most people won’t openly talk about it. So talk to someone about it, how stressed you’re feeling. Even if talking to a counsellor doesn’t work for you just talking to a friend might. Apologies for the lateness of my reply, message me anytime. I’m always here for you :)
My friends all stopped hanging out with me because I'm the 'mental girl' at my school. This is because I have OCD, anxiety, bipolar disorder, an eating disorder, BPD, depression, agoraphobia, and ADHD. So, needless to say, I'm pretty screwed up. I don't really know what I'm asking, but I guess I just want reassurance? Idk...
For people who don’t have mental illnesses it’s extremely hard for them to stand in the shoes of someone who does suffer and see it from their point of view.This doesn’t mean that everyone you interact with will immediately reject you because you’re the ‘mental girl’ because many will try their hardest to understand your condition. Teenagers can be cruel, I may still be one but I know how mean we, as a group, can be. You’ll learn that forgiveness comes with mental illness. People’s lack of understanding and knowledge towards it can make them, harsh, judgmental, prejudice and intolerant; that’s because there’s a lack of information around these issues and mental illness as a subject is still extremely taboo. I’m not saying to let them call you ‘mental girl’ because no one should have to put up with that. You’re not ‘screwed up’ you’re sick, like any other condition that one may be diagnosed with, and with sickness comes recovery. You need to surround yourself with people who understand and forget about the ones who only stuck with you when it was convenient for them. You have enough going on inside you, there’s no room for other peoples negativity. You will get better if you believe in yourself and trust the people trying to help you. I will always be here if you need me :)
There is a black wall of clouds overhead and wind like you wouldn't believe. I am sitting in my hallway now. Help! I. am.terrified!
I’m sorry I didn’t get back to you sooner, I’ve been not feeling so great. I hope you’re safe and everything went ok. It is perfectly normal to be panicked about something that is not in your control but next time remember that it will pass. You got through the last storm and you can do it again. Sorry again, I hope you’re alright now, message if you need me I’ll be quicker in replying next time xx
I just had two really bad panic attacks and I couldn't move for the first one at all and the next I was shaking and I couldn't stop and I'm really scared I don't know what to do.
You need to breathe. Remember where you are, remember that you are safe. Adrenaline is pumping around your body and it’s giving you the flight or fight feelings. Make sure you take enough time to recollect your thoughts and move on. Try and think of these panic attacks as isolated events because if you worry that it may happen again and become a recurring thing, it will only make it worse. You overcame both panic attacks and even though they’re bloody frightening nothing actually happened. The world is still turning and you will go on because you are stronger than this. Distract yourself, ring someone, talk to someone, do whatever you can to keep your mind off panicking. I hope this helps, I’m always here xx
Hello there, this is my little project to dissolve the stigma about seeking professional help for one's mental health. I am asking people to submit their selfies of them in the therapist office to show there is no shame in it. No harm if you cannot personally contribute. Maybe you could share this message with your followers if you think it would interest them. Best, therapyselfies.
“Depression is not selfish. Anxiety is not rude. Schizophrenia is not wrong. Mental illness isn’t self-centered, any more than a broken leg or the flu is self-centered. If your mental illness makes you feel guilty, review the definition of “illness” and try to treat yourself with the same respect and concern you would show to a cancer patient or a person with pneumonia.”—(via thegirlwithagrapefruit)
I messaged you a while back about social anxiety and I think it is getting better. I didn't go a doctor, but when I feel panicky I just count down from 100 and it really seems to help. Someone might find this helpful? And I love your blog :):) xxxxxx
Oh I’m so glad to here that! You just put a massive smile on my face, keep at it and if you ever need me you know where I am! :)x
For quite a while now I've been getting stressed and anxious about the smallest things. I get myself so worked up until I can't think straight. I find a way to worry about pretty much anything and I am constantly over analysing things. There's been quite a few occasions when I'm just so worked my up and my hearts been pounding and I breathe really heavily and I can't talk without it all coming out in a complete garbled mess. Is there anything you can recommend? I really hate being like this
I think the first thing you need to do is tell somebody. Like I’ve said to previous people; keeping it to yourself is not healthy. Every time you feel yourself getting worked up; stop, take a breather, ask yourself why you’re getting worked up and is it actually a big issue, try to resolve the situation and move past it. Don’t dwell on past worries, I know how hard that can be but once you’ve sorted it out try not to think about it too much. Really concentrate on what you’re saying, don’t rush to get all your words out, slow it down. Remember this is panic, you’re getting worked up and only you can calm yourself down again. If you’re somewhere where you can take a seat, sit down and collect your thoughts. Living in a faster pace of life we’re constantly rushing to get things done; your plans, tasks, whatever, are still going to be there no matter how long you take. Think what your ideal night of relaxation would be; it could be socialising, reading in bed, a film night, whatever it is make time for it. If there’s anything else you’d like to talk about let me know xx
Every day in my English class we have these discussion over what we've read in the novel we're reading. The problem is, these discussion are a third of my grade, meaning I have a C in the class. I usually get all A's, and I have good grades in the other two categories affecting my grade. I just don't know how to deal with this...during the discussions I feel lightheaded and sick to my stomach...
You’re building this up to something it’s not. Everyone in the class is there to learn and make some mistakes along the way. You need to ask yourself what is it about the lesson that gets you worked up; is it the thought of making a mistake? The thought of someone judging you or perhaps the fear of failure? The teacher is there to support you, if you’re having a problem during their class they should know. By telling them they’ll have a better understanding to why your grade is slightly lower than normal. When you’re asked a question try not to give the shortest answer possible to get it over with; really concentrate on what they’re asking, take time to think over your response and show enthusiasm. If you’re sitting in class thinking, “When it going to be over” time is going to go excruciatingly slow. It’s hard when you feel sick in a lesson but by actively taking part it should go quicker. Maybe share your opinions at the start of the discussion? That way you’re not worrying all lesson who the teacher will pick on next. Tell your parents what’s bothering you. If you need me I’m always here :)
During school holidays, I hardly ever suffer from anxiety, but when I'm at school it's pretty much constant, even once I get home, I'm almost always on edge and stressed. I'm not really sure why, I think it's just the pressure of homework and tests and things. Is there anything you can recommend?
You should tell your parents how you’re feeling or maybe your teacher. Keep a schedule of when you have to work and when you should relax.
4.00pm- 4.30pm- Home from school.
4.30pm-5.30pm- Homework hour.
6.00pm-6.30pm- Hot bath or shower.
Now, obviously you won’t be able to keep an exact routine and what I’ve written is an exaggeration. Meal times change, sometimes a family member spends ages in the bathroom, sometimes you go out. Knowing when to do your work and when to stop and take a time out is important. Also exercise is a great way to relax though’s muscles. Pushing yourself at school is fantastic but getting stressed out about it isn’t healthy. You need to step back and look at the bigger picture. Getting an education is important and goes a long way but it’s not something you should compromise your health over. Classes can be retaken, exams can be resat. You will get where you want to go if you put the work in and push yourself but know your limits and when to step back when it get’s too much. Is there anything else troubling you? Message me anytime xx
i'm another typical teen with social anxiety and a real problem with public speaking. I always feel faint and dizzy when I have to do any sort of presentation. usually I get really bad grades (Cs or Bs; i'm a straight A student normally) and I just can't figure out a way to do presentations while sounding confident. there's no way I can only present to the teacher, or do something else instead. you've probably gotten this question a lot, but any advice?
C’s and B’s aren’t bad grades. They may be lower than what you would usually get but they’re still passes so try not to stress too much over them. As for the dizziness and feeling faint, remember to keep hydrated and when you’re delivering a speech try to focus on one point in the room. It could be a persons forehead, or the back wall. Remember keep your head up, posture straight and try not looking around too much. You’re taking in all this information constantly, your head is processing it and as you’re panicking you’ll be getting more frantic, taking in more information and your head may start spinning. Unless you’re thinking of going into politics or a career that requires a lot of public speaking you need to remind yourself that your public speaking days could be over pretty soon. The more times you get up in front of a crowd the easier it will become. I’m not saying it will be a walk in the park but the tension should ease after a while. Focus on your breathing and speak with confidence, even if you feel as small as a mouse. Even if pretending you’re acting out a scene of a play helps, do it. Practice your speech in a mirror a few times but after that try not to think about it too much. You’ll build it up into something it’s not. I hope this helps, message me anytime xx
I've started feeling physically ill from worrying about tests and school. My parents say that it's because I'm recovering from a cold, but this has happened to me before (the last time I moved school). I'd like to talk to a professional, but I don't know how to go about it without telling my parents?
Oh my goodness, I am so, so sorry anon. This message has just been piled in with various others and I didn’t realise it was still here! I thought I’d replied to this but my laptop has been playing up. It depends whether you can actually seek professional help without your parents. I don’t know which part of the world you’re from. In some countries I think you have to inform your parents by law if you’re underage. Just press them about it, tell them that you really want help. Also you can always retake a test, one exam will not change the course of your future and worrying about it will do more damage than good. This is just school, when I look back on my high school exam results I don’t still fret over the ones I failed and I only left two years ago! If you have a hard time relaxing about them just remember that exams are over quickly and soon you’ll have no more. You may be thinking “Well I have five years left of school so it won’t be over quickly.” It will, high school goes so fast it’s unbelievable, it’s just one big blur to me now. Tell your parents about how much you’re worrying. I hope this helps and again, I’m sorry for the late reply xx
I hate the word label but society seems insistent that we’re put in our place. I don’t like the idea that I can be placed into one category; gay, straight, bisexual, transsexual, transgender, mentally ill, obese, skinny, victim. Once you’re placed into that box it’s very hard to change peoples perception of you. From a very young age I decided whoever I fall in love with, I fall in love with and I have no control over that. Am I sexually attracted to men? Yes, I am. Does that mean I wouldn’t want a woman to flirt with me at a bar? Hell no, of course I would! I am indecisive and I’m young. At the moment I want ice-cream for breakfast, tomorrow I may want cereal. How on earth am I supposed to stick to a decision as big as who I’m going to spend the rest of my life with if I can’t decide on what to have for breakfast? I want to think my anxiety doesn’t define who I am as a person but others think that mine or anyone else’s mental illness’s are who we are, we fit into that box and nothing more. People who have been horrifically abused are labelled “victim” and then that’s it. They will be victims for the rest of their lives, which is wrong.
Do you think it's better to face challenges with your anxiety or let it pass? For instance, I have social anxiety and I'm supposed to give an around 8 minutes presentation completely alone. I'm considering staying home from school to avoid it but I think it may be good to do it. It wouldn't hurt my grades to skip it by the way. What's your opinion?
It’s definitely better to face your anxiety if you can, otherwise it may spiral out of control to the point were you can’t handle it anymore. If you can’t manage that’s OK, you can always try again. However, I would always recommend giving it a go just to see what happens because putting it off will only make it harder when you actually do it. You’ll feel so much better when it’s out of the way, over and done with. Also you’ll feel like you’ve achieved something and it’ll reinforce the fact that you can do these things that your anxiety say you can’t. So give it a go and if you only get 4 minutes into the speech and have to stop that’s OK, at least you’ve tried, you’re one step closer to actually getting through it. Ultimately it’s your decision but I hope my advice is useful. Message me anytime :)
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Hi, Lately i have been getting panic attacks every single day for no reason whatsoever. They are horrible and I have to take a pill that they had given me at the hospital to calm myself down. I dont have many pills left and my doctor will not prescribe me anything. I am frightened every day about getting another one or when i will and how i am going to handle it. I try my best to handle them but it it so hard and they dont go away unless i take the pills. any advice?
Tablets will help rein in your anxiety, they might not stop your anxiety completely. Is there a particular reason your doctor will not give you another prescription? You can survive without tablets, I know that’s obvious and it’s hard to explain where I’m coming from but you can live without these tablets. Thinking that you will not be able to manage without medication will make it more likely that you won’t be able to. I’ve re-written that four times now, sometimes it’s hard to get my answer across without sounding insensitive or unsympathetic, often computer messaging can sound rude when it’s not intended to be.
Living in fear of something that hasn’t even happened yet is no way to live. The more you play these worries over and over in your head, a panic attack may ensue. Then the process will continue in a cycle; worrying, panic, panic attack. A positive mentality and a positive outlook on your situation may decrease the likelihood of a panic attack. When you start to worry, think; “I’m not dying, I’m not seriously ill, this is just panic, their’s no point in panicking over nothing.” Take a few deep breaths, compose yourself, move past it and don’t dwell on it too much. If your doctor won’t give you the medication you need perhaps you should seek other help and a different doctor. I know that it depends where you live and healthcare is more difficult in some countries than others but if you’re desperate try and get it. Even go in and hell at your current doctor until they get the message. I hope this helps and sorry I know this was a long one, message me whenever you want xx
Oops, should have clarified better, the convention was the first anxiety attack and that was in August. I have had five since then. Over seemingly trivial things that I could have handled a year ago. Like first day of school, mock interviews, actual job interview, and meeting people for coffee.
How much stress would you say you’re under at the moment? The best way to make these trivial things not trigger panic attacks is to ride through a panic attack when it strikes at said place. For the simple reason that; getting yourself used to these situations again, desensitising yourself so, eventually the anxiety shouldn’t effect you there anymore. Perhaps come off anon if you’d like to talk about it in depth? It’s just much easier that way :)
(2) It's about a two hour drive so I can't just leave if it gets to be too much and i don't think my iPod would help much with the amount of people there. The thing that had me go to the doctor in the first place was an anxiety attack at a convention in Toronto, where we were like 8 floors down and I was surrounded by thousands of people, so I guess that can be triggering. This whole thing is incredibly new to me or I would have chose something different with less people. I don't even know.
How many times have you had a panic attack? Sorry I’m confused, have you just had the one at that convention? If that’s is the case, don’t build it up in your head. I know how difficult it is, truly. The more you think about, “worst case scenario’s” the more likely you are to panic. This could be a one off thing, you don’t know. It sounds like you have a lot of stress in your life at the moment so you should maybe turn it down a bit. Don’t worry about trivial things and don’t panic about the more important things you haven’t done yet. I think most people would feel a bit uneasy in a hot room full of people. Perhaps look at this as a one off thing? Think, “Right I had a panic attack, it wasn’t very nice, it could be my body’s way of telling me to slow down, I need to slow down and not dwell on it too much.” One panic attack will not change you, unless you let it. So don’t let it. What’s the worst that will happen? You’ll feel like, (excuse my french) shit. You’re going to be surrounded by family, the people who you’ve grown up with. If you feel unwell, they’ll take care of you and help you through it. Once you’ve been there and done it you’ll feel so much better. If you avoid it, it’s only going to make it harder the next time. I hope this helps :)
(1) Thanks for that! I feel a bit better, it's kinda strange how words can do that...I'm the 21 year old that you just answered by the way. As for the birthday thing my family and I are going to Canada's Wonderland this Saturday for the Haunt, and at first I was really excited and all that, but now I'm just kind of really nervous and worried. I have family coming in from everywhere and i feel pressured and I think it's too late to cancel. (cont.)
I'm 21 and I just found out a few weeks ago that I have bad anxiety and I'm still waiting on a psychiatrist to call me back, but I hate living on other people's schedules, like I am under a TON of pressure to find a job, plus I'm balancing school and I have some social events coming up for my upcoming birthday that I can't cancel out on and really can't afford another attack, and I really don't know what to do. Any tips on what to do during an attack? In case she doesn't get back to me in time?
First of all you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. I understand you’re under pressure do attend these engagements but if you’re really struggling and just can’t do it, explain why and I’m sure they’ll understand. If it gets too much you can leave. However, I do think it’s best not to avoid it, for a few reasons; 1. You’ll just feel worse about what you’re going through if you miss out on all the fun stuff. 2. It is likely that your anxiety will get worse the next time you have to do something similar because you avoided this situation. 3. No matter how bad you feel it’s not going to hurt you, you’ve done similar things before and you’ll do them again, the world will keep turning and life will go on. I know panic attacks feel like, in a weird way, that the world is coming to an end, I really do. You have to remind yourself that it’s not, a panic attack may feel like it lasts an eternity but in reality the peak of an attack lasts about ten minutes. If you’re constantly feeling anxious throughout the day take regular breaks to compose yourself and to collect your thoughts. Focus on your breathing is what they recommend as well, deep breaths. Take your IPod with you, that way when the conversation isn’t distracting you enough, you can listen to music which may help. I don’t know your financial situation but if you don’t need to get a job just yet, wait until you’re feeling better. Try to enjoy yourself, I know it can be hard when you feel horrible but you said your birthday’s coming up, so have some fun! I hope his helps, message me whenever you want :)
Is cbt any good? I have anxiety issues and have been seeing a counsellor who recommended this.
It’s different for everyone. Some people respond well to Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and some people don’t take to it. You have to go in there with a positive attitude and an open mind. If you don’t have that drive to get better yourself and you just sit through the sessions not paying attention, it’s not going to help. CBT is just a crutch, you have to be making changes in your own life as well. If you sit through the session, go home and don’t do anything anything to help yourself, it’s not going to be much use. I do recommend it, try everything you can. If it doesn’t work, you keep searching until you find something that does help you. I hope this helps :)
I have OCD and one if my obsessions is balance and anytime i see someone do a repetitive action (clicking a pen, moving their foot, ect) i have to do it to "balance it out" none of my friends know about my disorder (although they know that something has been up with me for a while i can tell) and one of them is ALWAYS fidgeting and it skyrockets my anxiety. I want to tell her i have ocd but i'm afraid she'll feel guilty for her fidgeting and i do t want her to feel bad, i just want her to stop.
Your friend will have nothing to feel guilty about because she wasn’t aware of what is wrong with you. You have nothing to feel guilty about either. Don’t rush into it and list off all the things that make you tick, tell her them gradually. Start off by telling her you have OCD and if she has any questions answer them. Then maybe tell her what really sets your anxiety off and slide in the bit about repetitive actions. It’s up to you how you tell her but just be honest with her. I’m here if you need me xx
I think I may have social anxiety/depression. I get really freaked out when I have to do anything social. I think that everything I do is going to have a horrible effect that will ruin my life. I also think that I'm always doing something wrong and everyone secretly thinks I'm annoying or hates me. I feel so sad all the time. I feel tired and weighed down, but yet I can't sleep. It's starting to be to tiring to talk even. I've tried telling my parents but they think I'm making it up.
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If you did read my previous post remember to be honest and open to whomever you talk to. Perhaps try breathing exercises and meditation before bed, it may help you. Doing exercises and having a warm shower/bath with help you exert excess energy and may help you to relax. You have to push yourself to take care of yourself, even when you feel at your worst. It could be stress, you don’t know and you’ll never know until you go to your doctor. Reading before you go to bed can make you sleepy. How long have you been feeling like this? Message me, anon or off xx
I get extremely frustrated when I receive a message from someone who needs advice on mental health issues and they tell me their parents do not believe there is anything wrong and that their child is making it up.
I don’t care if you have to scream at them, drum it into their heads that there is something wrong and that you do need help. If they won’t listen, find someone who will. I don’t care if it’s your Aunt, Uncle, Grandma, Grandad, Cousin, Sibling, Best Friend, Teacher; it could be anyone. It can be your Neighbour for all I care. If this is interrupting your life and causing you distress you need to get help. You need to find someone who’ll help you.
There’s only so much advice I can give you and you need to seek help so you can get on the road to recovery.
Remember: Even if everybody else is against you, I’m not. Message me whenever you need to, even if you don’t really need to and you just want to chat.
How would I tell my parents that I think I have social anxiety and that I think I need treatment? Also, how do I go about telling my friends about it?
Just be 100% honest about it, don’t sugar coat it. Don’t make it sound like it’s easier to deal with than it actually is. Perhaps ask for patience off your friends. Say that it’s harder for you to deal with social situations, sometimes you just can’t handle it and you need their patience. Your parents are there to help and support you. You’ll feel better for telling them. Maybe tell the parent you share the most with first. You might have an equal relationship with both, I don’t know, its up to you to decide. Just do it, you’ll feel better once you have. I’m here if you need me xx
im not sure if i have social anxiety because ive never actually had a panic attack or anything but every time i have to talk to someone new i always stutter and get really hot and start sweating lots and get butterflies, people always laugh at me because im "awkward" but i think it might be more than that i dont know
Most people will have acute social anxiety at one point or another. If it’s something you’re coping with and it’s not interfering with your day to day life, I’d suggest to just keep an eye on it. Maybe log down social situations were you felt uncomfortable, list why you felt that way and keep a diary of them. When you are interacting with someone and you start to stutter, try to control your breathing. Take it slow and don’t try and blurt everything out really fast otherwise you will stutter. Try and get involved in social situations you wouldn’t normally. Give them a try and get used to being around different people. If it does start to effect your average day to day then it will be a problem. If you have any questions, you know where I am :)
Hi. I looked at the link for social anxiety and I think that might be what I have. My mum knows I am very shy and about 2 years a go I had a week of school, at the time I thought I was ill but now I think it was anxiety. What should I do? (Age 14)
Tell your mum what you think it may be. Get yourself to a doctor and see if they can help you in any way. Better to check now than leave it and let it get worse. It may just be hormones if you’re only fourteen, you never know. Get yourself to the doctors and message me whenever you want :)
Is this anxiety- I can't make phone calls, I can never put my hand up in class, I go really red/ have hot flushes at least once a day,I hate talking to teachers, I hate eye contact and I always think people are talking about me and there is more
This sounds similar to social anxiety. Do your parents know about any of this? You need to get your confidence back when interacting with people. I know for a fact I’m not interesting enough for people to hold more than a ten minute conversation about me and I’m sure most people are the same! People aren’t judging you, even when you’re at your most paranoid you have to tell yourself that. I’m not a doctor but have a look at this, see if you can relate to any of it and message me what you think;