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WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:    Stay with us and keep calm.The last thing we need when we’re panicking, is to have someone else panicking with us.
Offer medicine if we usually take it during an attack.You might have to ask whether or not we take medicine- heck, some might not; but please, ask. It really helps.
Move us to a quiet place.We need time to think, to breathe. Being surrounded by people isn’t going to help.
Don’t make assumptions about what we need. Ask.We’ll tell you what we need. Sometimes; you may have to ask- but never assume.
Speak to us in short, simple sentences.
Be predictable. Avoid surprises.
Help slow our breathing by breathing us or by counting slowly to 10.As odd as it sounds, it works.


                                                                                                                 


WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO:1. Say, “You have nothing to be panicked about.”We know. We know. We know. And because we know we have nothing to be panicked about, we panic even more. When I realize that my anxiety is unfounded, I panic even more because then I feel like I’m not in touch with reality. It’s unsettling. Scary.Most of the time, a panic attack is irrational. Sometimes they stem from circumstances — a certain couch triggers a bad memory or being on an airplane makes you claustrophobic or a break up causes you to flip your lid — but mostly, the reasons I’m panicking are complex, hard to articulate or simply, unknown. I could tell myself all day that I have no reason to be having a panic attack and I would still be panicking. Sometimes, because I’m a perfectionist, I become even more overwhelmed when I think my behaviour is “unacceptable” (as I often believe it is when I’m panicking). I know it’s all in my mind, but my mind can be a pretty dark and scary place when it gets going.Alternate suggestion: Say, “I understand you’re upset. It is okay. You have a right to be upset and I am here to help.”2. Say, “Calm down.”This reminds me of a MadTV sketch where Bob Newhart plays a therapist who tells his patients to simply “Stop it!” whenever they express anxiety or fear. As a sketch, it’s funny. In real life, it’s one of the worst things you can do to someone having a panic attack. When someone tells me to “stop panicking” or to “calm down,” I just think, “Oh, okay. I haven’t tried that one. Hold on, let me get out a pen and paper and jot that down, you jerk.”Instead of taking action so that they do relax, simply telling a panicking person to “calm down” or “stop it” does nothing. No-thing.Alternate suggestion: The best thing to do is to listen and support. In order to calm them down without the generalities, counting helps.3. Say, “I’m just going to leave you alone for a minute.”Being left alone while panicking makes my heart race even harder. The last thing I want is to be left by myself with my troubled brain. Many of my panic attacks spark from over-thinking and it’s helpful to have another person with me, not only for medical reasons (in case I pass out or need water) but also it’s helpful to have another person around to force me to think about something other than the noise in my head.Alternate suggestion: It sometimes helps me if the person I’m with distracts me by telling me a story or sings to me. I need to get out of my own head and think about something other than my own panic.4. Say, “You’re overreacting.”Here’s the thing: I’m not. Panic attacks might be in my head, but I’m in actual physical pain. If you’d cut open your leg, no one would be telling you you’re overreacting. It’s a common trope in mental health to diminish the feelings or experience of someone suffering from anxiety or panic because there’s no visible physical ailment and because there’s no discernible reason for the person to be having such a strong fear reaction.The worst thing you can tell someone who is panicking is that they are overreacting.Alternate suggestion: Treat a panic attack like any other medical emergency. Listen to what the person is telling you. Get them water if they need it. It helps me if someone rubs my back a little. If you’re in over your head, don’t hesitate to call 911 (or whatever the emergency services number is where you are). But please, take the person seriously. Mental health deserves the same respect as physical health.



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perspicious:

WHAT YOU SHOULD DO:
    
  1. Stay with us and keep calm.
    The last thing we need when we’re panicking, is to have someone else panicking with us.

  2. Offer medicine if we usually take it during an attack.
    You might have to ask whether or not we take medicine- heck, some might not; but please, ask. It really helps.

  3. Move us to a quiet place.
    We need time to think, to breathe. Being surrounded by people isn’t going to help.

  4. Don’t make assumptions about what we need. Ask.
    We’ll tell you what we need. Sometimes; you may have to ask- but never assume.

  5. Speak to us in short, simple sentences.

  6. Be predictable. Avoid surprises.

  7. Help slow our breathing by breathing us or by counting slowly to 10.
    As odd as it sounds, it works.
                                                                                                                 
WHAT YOU SHOULDN’T DO:

1. Say, “You have nothing to be panicked about.”
We know. We know. We know. And because we know we have nothing to be panicked about, we panic even more. When I realize that my anxiety is unfounded, I panic even more because then I feel like I’m not in touch with reality. It’s unsettling. Scary.

Most of the time, a panic attack is irrational. Sometimes they stem from circumstances — a certain couch triggers a bad memory or being on an airplane makes you claustrophobic or a break up causes you to flip your lid — but mostly, the reasons I’m panicking are complex, hard to articulate or simply, unknown. I could tell myself all day that I have no reason to be having a panic attack and I would still be panicking. Sometimes, because I’m a perfectionist, I become even more overwhelmed when I think my behaviour is “unacceptable” (as I often believe it is when I’m panicking). I know it’s all in my mind, but my mind can be a pretty dark and scary place when it gets going.

Alternate suggestion: Say, “I understand you’re upset. It is okay. You have a right to be upset and I am here to help.”


2. Say, “Calm down.”
This reminds me of a MadTV sketch where Bob Newhart plays a therapist who tells his patients to simply “Stop it!” whenever they express anxiety or fear. As a sketch, it’s funny. In real life, it’s one of the worst things you can do to someone having a panic attack. When someone tells me to “stop panicking” or to “calm down,” I just think, “Oh, okay. I haven’t tried that one. Hold on, let me get out a pen and paper and jot that down, you jerk.

Instead of taking action so that they do relax, simply telling a panicking person to “calm down” or “stop it” does nothing. No-thing.

Alternate suggestion: The best thing to do is to listen and support. In order to calm them down without the generalities, counting helps.


3. Say, “I’m just going to leave you alone for a minute.”
Being left alone while panicking makes my heart race even harder. The last thing I want is to be left by myself with my troubled brain. Many of my panic attacks spark from over-thinking and it’s helpful to have another person with me, not only for medical reasons (in case I pass out or need water) but also it’s helpful to have another person around to force me to think about something other than the noise in my head.

Alternate suggestion: It sometimes helps me if the person I’m with distracts me by telling me a story or sings to me. I need to get out of my own head and think about something other than my own panic.


4. Say, “You’re overreacting.”
Here’s the thing: I’m not. Panic attacks might be in my head, but I’m in actual physical pain. If you’d cut open your leg, no one would be telling you you’re overreacting. It’s a common trope in mental health to diminish the feelings or experience of someone suffering from anxiety or panic because there’s no visible physical ailment and because there’s no discernible reason for the person to be having such a strong fear reaction.

The worst thing you can tell someone who is panicking is that they are overreacting.

Alternate suggestion: Treat a panic attack like any other medical emergency. Listen to what the person is telling you. Get them water if they need it. It helps me if someone rubs my back a little. If you’re in over your head, don’t hesitate to call 911 (or whatever the emergency services number is where you are). But please, take the person seriously. Mental health deserves the same respect as physical health.


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Anonymous asked: "I have an anxiety disorder, it used to be severe. In the last year I've gotten a lot better and have been quite okay with a job (I have 2 but in 1 job I struggle with anxiety) I found out that my boss told one coworker that I am scared of her (it's not true). That coworker then went on to tell me she once worked in mental health, that I should be able to work in spite of my anxiety and I have a bad work ethic. Is she right? I feel like my progress has been for nothing, if I shouldn't be working."

Sorry for the lateness of this reply. I didn’t really understand the message, is this person saying that your anxiety shouldn’t stop you working? Because that’s wrong, sometimes when a persons anxiety is really bad it can disrupt their work. You have an illness, an actual medical condition, anxiety is not a bad work ethic. Obviously this coworker of yours left her job because of her complete ignorance towards mental illness. Sadly, some people will think these things, they’ll think you’re lazy or are just faking it. Don’t give these people your time of day, there’s no point in worrying about them. Sadly most of them are so narrow minded that it doesn’t matter how well you explain whats going on inside your body they still won’t believe you. Your progress is something, don’t let these people get you don’t, don’t let them take away your achievements. Little achievements to them may be major achievements to you but that doesn’t take away their significance. Keep going with your job, things should get easier, I have faith in you! I hope this helps, message me anytime :)

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Anonymous asked: "I was wondering if you have any advice for me. Basically, my anxiety has hit an all time high. I'm not diagnosed with an anxiety disorder but I'm absolutely certain I'm suffering from one. And I can not leave the house without another person or with my phone in my hand. I can't stare at where I'm walking because I'll notice other humans walking or driving past and it terrifies me. I am frightened of just being in the world I live in. (Continued)"

Apologies for the lateness of this reply. It does sound like this is becoming a pretty big problem in your life. My advice is get yourself to a doctor and get properly diagnosed. If you want to fix this, this is the first step. Tell your parents, though I’m sure they’re aware something is wrong if it’s disrupting your life this much, and get yourself checked by your doctor. I hope the doctors goes alright, and remember you’re not alone, you will get through this! Message me anytime :)

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aziraphalesneakers:

Can’t go over it.

Can’t go under it.

Can’t go around it.

Gotta go through it.

Trying to explain depression or anxiety to someone who’s never experienced it.


Anonymous asked: "I am a bit terrified by cinemas ... I think because my first panick attack happened in a cinema. So my friends are planning to go and i want to go as well but i hesitate a bit and i think that if i go something is going to happen."

Firstly sorry for the lateness of this reply I’ve been extremely busy and I’ve also been getting a lot of questions, not just from this blog. Avoiding a place that triggers anxiety is not beneficial for you in the long run. The more you avoid it the harder it will be to go back there, it could get to a point were you can’t go there at all. When anxiety starts to limit the places you can go it can cause you to become anxious in places you never were before. Not to say that will happen to you, but it can happen. Take the bull by the horns as they say and go to the cinema, try and enjoy yourself! You’ll feel better once you have done it and it should ease your anxiety the next time you go. I have faith in you! Message me how it goes :)

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Hi guys, just a quick heads up that I’ll be taking a short hiatus. I’m extremely busy at the moment and can’t answer your questions as quickly as I’d like to. I’ll answer all the questions already in my ask box at the moment, and you can still message me but your questions will take longer to get to. I’m setting up a que as well so it’ll be like I was never gone and I’ll be in and out of Tumblr so if you desperately need my help we can chat. Hope you’re all having a lovely summer, feel free to message me if you have questions regarding this matter! :)

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